So are most marriages doomed to fail?
It is an archaic institution designed to expire concurrent with a woman’s childbearing years, just like in the olden days. The idea of two people changing together and—more importantly— accepting each others changes over a 50-year span is delusional unless that person is undeniably your best friend in the whole world. Ever.
Needs-based relationships are doomed to fail, as are ones based on potential instead of reality. And if you hold any secrets—past or current—from your partner, your relationship is doomed to fail. A relationship based on sex is doomed to fail. Good sex alone cannot carry a relationship…When time, benevolence, mystery, and positive communication decrease within a relationship, the sex is sure to follow in direct proportion.
The ethnographic evidence suggests that human nature is adapted to an ancestral mating system that was predominately polygynous (one husband, multiple wives). Most ancestral men aspired to polygyny (even though most weren’t impressive enough to attract more than one wife), and some ancestral women preferred to be the co-wife of a really impressive man than the sole wife of a second-rate one.
The secret to getting away with having 2 girlfriends: lint brush.
“Whom you are most attracted to reflects the biology of your brain as much as the heat of your heart. And it may not have to do with us—it’s all about the kids.”
